| "If some one is falsely assumed/accused to be a narcisst, dram 'queen' or anything else for that matter, should they defend themselves, should the continually defend their integrity? Or should they fold, and recede into the dark trenches made by the continuous 'bluggining' like comments by those who accused,etc... How would you think of that person..would you judge quickley...or would you approach it reasonably..." |
Neither. Address it, with the understanding that you aren't defending your integrity if you sacrifice your integrity to do it. I like to argue, or I wouldn't be here. I don't even mind "personal" stuff here and there. If someone has a beef with you and get's all "your momma" about it, try to keep on the beef itself. If you make a big deal about them calling you on it, or the way they called you on it, you just leave their original point there for everyone to accept unhindered.
If you find that there is truth to what they are saying, address it. Honestly, posting a title and a link isn't really that respectful to the people you bump off the list. It doesn't do you any justice, and after a while people will just stop looking. When they do it will be on the merits of the title, not what you have to offer to the subject.
I think you would have gotten the point if you had been more receptive to the complaint, instead of the acidic tone it was handed down in. That's the Internet, though, and, frankly, that's Little Whip. You take people around here warts and all because you know they have a lot more to offer than warts. What you did was focus on the wart and didn't hear the valid complaint.
To me, if you had said "You're right, I could do better than just posting a link, and thanks for being a bitch about it.", I think it would have diffused it a lot more than trying to defend yourself for just posting links. Sure, there's no rules, and you can post links if you want, but if you hang out you'll find that even when people pass on what they find interesting they try to spin it so that people understand why they find it interesting.
If you stay on you'll see people who do a lot of copy/paste and linking, and you'll see they often get a ton of hits just for picking the right subject. No, hits aren't that important, but when someone who didn't bother to do anything but make an 'A' tag gets as much attention and buries the article you spent an hour writing, you'll understand.
You've had a bad start, but by now you should start feeling when a situation is futile. Eventually you have to say, "You know what? Nothing I say is going to make any difference because you aren't interested in (fixing) (discussing) this anyway." It happens a lot. People fire off stuff they want to say and they really don't have any intention of coming to terms or finding a deeper truth. Make your point and go. Their mind is theirs, and in the end it is their blog.
