Sexy and Sexier
The art of surprise
A world-renowned psychiatrist led a group of twelve fellow professionals, leaders in their respective fields on a quest for knowledge. Their goal was to figure out why, when a person has specific needs, aches and pains, etc., it feels better when someone else tends to them than when they see to them themselves. Logic dictates that the afflicted person would know exactly where his/her leg hurt for instance and, in so knowing, could apply just the right pressure, massage, etc. to alleviate the pain. Not so.
This esteemed group ran extensive batteries of tests on willing human guinea pigs and not-so-willing lab specimens for months. The results were conclusive but baffling to the experts. The attention of an other, someone outside of self, was more conducive to healing and just plain felt better to the ailing individual. But why, they wondered. The learned professionals were in a quandary, ready to throw in the proverbial towel.
The man leading the team was having breakfast one morning with his family. He began a conversation with his wife concerning his frustration with the project. She readily agreed that the results of his studies just didn’t make sense.
“Uh, Daddy,” his eleven-year-old daughter piped in.
“Yes, Sweetheart, what is it?”
“I know why,” she said shyly.
Daddy smiled. “Would you care to share that knowledge with me?”
“It’s because they don’t know,” the little girl said simply. “People like surprises. The same person can hug you lots o’ times but each time is different.”
And when a different person hugs you, it is never the same. Hugs and caresses can be oh so esoteric and wonderfully ecstatic in their delivery, their guaranteed gift of positive mystery and affirmation. It is delicious and divine to be human, to expect the unexpected. Remember how it felt when you first encountered your significant other, how the air fairly sizzled between you? The tips of your ears burned hot-hot. You did what turned out to be that sexy thang, swiveling your head slowly, stretching the burning muscles in your neck, acutely aware of everything, including the hair stiff on the nape of your neck. Your feet decided to walk a bit different, to strut or maybe pause and turn slow-like, just like that. And your hair became a mane tossed behind you and fallin’ cross your eyes. You said what you would never say, wondered later what in the world came over you to behave so brazenly or so cool.
Well, that’s mystery and mystique, the mmmm monsters of emotion. That’s what we’re going to talk about here. We certainly can’t create such moments in the real world. What we can do is affect them. Being sexy, love and romance; these are the spice of life. They are there at our fingertips to tempt and tantalize, dare us to take the next step, for some of us maybe another step beyond the instance of sight and circumstance. Will you be the one to introduce or reintroduce these wonderful ingredients into your relationship? Will you try Herbal Mood Enhancements, stimulation of the genitalia, perhaps spike the air with a provocative trace of incense. If you do, can you imagine what your opposite number might offer up on the table of love this time or the next or the next?
Speaking of the table of love and foreplay, have you noticed how time together, days become years, take the fore and the play out of lovemaking? A wonderful time and place to rekindle the pre-fire is the table and you don’t have to spend a bundle at a fancy restaurant. You’d be surprised how simple it is to set the scene yourself. Again, keep scent in mind (http://my.webmd.com/content/Article/16/1728_55035.htm?printing=true); pay as much attention to scent as you do to sight. What light and shadow are to lingerie, scent is to sex. Bring mystery to the fore. You know what he/she likes. Aphrodisiacs (http://www.gourmetsleuth.com/aphrodis_foods.htm) tend to be like diamonds, their value determined and appreciated by individual taste. Be intentional and specific when tending to the small stuff, the aura you create around the event. A hint and a promise are every bit as sumptuous, sometimes more so than the culmination of the meal.
There are many safe and fun activities that lend themselves favorably to the fore. The foot massage using sensual massage oils, clothes on please, comes to mind. Uh yes (no offense to Pulp Fiction), it is very sexy and can lead to what… the removal of clothing, a changing of gears and perhaps the application of oils and lubricants. Condoms, as we are aware, are safe. They can be fun as well. There are many colors, styles, ribbed variations, etc. Besides birth control, they can be used to lighten or heighten the moment, to prolong the time to male orgasm and further stimulate the female.
Life, love, and human sexuality are hard labor of sorts, a wonderful job most of us aspire to and hunger for. When treated intentionally and with that special person in mind, they become a bond, a tight-wire wind of Spirituality and sensuality, important and essential ingredients in our quest for peak intellectual, psychological, and physiological health. Remember, “People like surprises”.
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