Women especially past middle age seems to have a very skewed sense of sensuality, arousal and libido. Whereas, for mens' even after middle age, the libido can arise from just an aroused 'mind'-remebering a past episode, or seeing a pretty girl on the way to work or just plain fantasy.
Womens' sexual urges, I have so far failed to understand. They dont respond when we need them most. They are in thier own world, when you want them to be with you physically, emotionally and sensually-they just behave like an ice block and just take things lying down. And, poor guy, he has to somehow imagine she is with him in the erotic odyssey.
At times though,unannounced, she gets aroused and behaves like a fierce tigress when you are not ready to harvest the fruits of an all-consuming love. Tried several things, kinds of foreplay, sweet nothings, even warming-up movies, but she cant be induced against her will-who says women are weak, they have rock-solid wills. It is only when she 'allows' herself that she is fully turned on, otherwise no amount of your goading will change her 'mood.
Poor men have yet to understand the other half of our species. Whats the secret to het 'heart' and 'soul. ? What is the trigger that turns her on ?
When he is in the heat of passion and she is frozen like an ice slab, what will thaw her body. What is the secret route to 'the perfumed garden' . All the kamasutras, Hite reports and Desmond Morrises also are of not much help in easing this perpetual tension between the sexes and thier differing psychologies. Who can solve the mystery of the feminine pyshe. The first person who can slove it will be like the Columbus of human sexual ladscape.
Or are all women from antarctica and all men from sahara, when one is in heat, the other will be ice-cold and never shall the twain meet ?
Men from Sahara, women from Antarctica, crazy world, this world of ours, am I right, dear fellow travelers ?
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