Sorry to intrude on the estrogen fest, but I loved this article. People in our society are ridiculously hung up on romance as the be all and end all of existence. The same goes for guys. I am frequently asked: So do you have a woman yet? And yes after a time people decide I must be gay. Acually my last gf spread a rumour to that effect about me and told me to my face that she had worked out the reason I hadn't wanted to have sex with her was not that I was waiting for a very specific time in my life, but that I am gay.
There is more to life. One doesn't need to be in a relationship to be a worthwhile human being. A lot of people get into relationships because they think this is what will make them worthwhile and complete. If they don't actually feel that strongly for the person, if they don't have all that strong a connection with them (as in a connection that is formed in the mind, not the hips or even the heart) then they wind up feeling empty and can't understand why. Some of them then react by having babies to fill the void. This does work sometimes.
I also remember once being asked "Why not?" after I had answered that I didn't have a gf (though the person was not nearly so rude as the feller at that wedding, floozie). There's nothing per say wrong with asking that, but it does I think reflect something about people's attitudes to romance in Australia. No one ever asks "So, why DO you have a gf/bf?". It seems to be the "normal" state to have a partner or to be at least on the lookout. People never ask "Why haven't you been to Iceland?" or "Why don't you write a blog?" or even, "Why don't you have a great friend who you've known for ten years and who has the greatest chats with you you could ever imagine?". These aren't the important things in our society supposedly. And yet, I must say to me they are things I value the most. (I've never been to Iceland but I've travelled a bit).
The most important thing is to become comfortable with yourself. If you don't want a partner, don't let anyone tell you you should have one. There's no point unless you really get along well with the person. All of us have interesting minds and that's what we should develop.
