Men are nuts! You hear me men out there...you're all certifiable! There are moments in a marriage, heck any relationship, where the man is going to be feeling like his woman doesn't love him anymore and mind you, it's all in your head men! OK, if you had a relationship that didn't work because of sexual problems, I digress.
But, what is it that makes you men think that just because we women are not in the mood, that equates to us not loving, desiring, or wanting you anymore? That's the question I asked my hubby who felt exactly this way when he came on to me and I told him I wasn't in the mood! Oh my God! You would think I committed a crime or something! I just had a lot on my mind and I was a bit tired, plus the kids were still up and they love bursting into our room (my five year old - although the door would have been locked - and she would be banging on it demanding to be let in!). Usually he could 'break' me down and I would be a willing participant but not when the kids are still up! He happens to be noisy when he gets excited, you would think I would be the noisy one but he gets loud and I wasn't up to explaining to the kids why daddy was making weird noises!LOL!
So of course he got upset that I didn't want to do it and started talking all kinds of crap and making me feel like I committed the cime of the century! Then he went back into 'ancient' history bringing up all the times I wasn't in 'the mood' and asking me how come he's the one always making all the advances, which is a bold face lie and I told him so! Then he went on and on that it's been a whole week without being intimate and I kindly reminded him that it's only been four days! Four freaking days! Men!
How convenient for him to pull that card?! My girlfriend visited this past weekend and she used our five year old's room while she bunked with us. Of course I had to remind him of that too! Well, the sheepish, guilty face happened, and he's so cute when he gets all guilty!
So we talked about why he would come up with all these things and try to make out that my being not in the mood means that I don't love or desire him anymore? How did he come up with that one? He was like well, we men like to feel that our women do desire us and you not wanting to have sex...well.... yeah right! Then I asked him how come he always forgets the times that I've initiated sex or how often we have been intimate. Where does his brain go? {I wanted to remind him that men think with their dicks but I didn't} I know, not nice to think or say, but lets face it, many women would agree with me!lol!
Well, we kissed and made up and he got his wishes!
Hiccups in a marriage...happens all the time. The key is never go to bed angry and always communicate!
