I guess ambulance crews, ERs and Surgeons should just let multiple trauma, stroke and advanced heart attack patients just die too, since their prognosis for a "meaningful" life is slim...Just think of the money we could save!

While we're at it, why don't we just let everyone involved in organized religion just die... Elton John swears that it only leads to a hatefilled life, and what is meaningful about hate?  ;~D

I guess ambulance crews, ERs and Surgeons should just let multiple trauma, stroke and advanced heart attack patients just die too, since their prognosis for a "meaningful" life is slim...Just think of the money we could save!

I didn't know they had such a shitty life if they survived... considering I know a few people that have had strokes, advanced heart attacks, multiple traumas, etc. that have very good lives, still teaching or what not and living on their own.

I can't imagine living like that. Here, something else to chew on.. Fetal Viability "But no baby has ever been successfully delivered before the middle of the 22nd week." "A baby born during the 22nd week has a 14.8 percent chance of survival. And about half of these survivors are brain-damaged,"

Zoo: Premature birth is a very well studied mystery. Sometimes it's due to no reason at all, others is a problem with the uterus, and sometimes the mothers body attacks the fetus and causes "spontaneous abortions"/miscarriage/stillbirth/preemies. Many parents, me included, allow themselves to have our lives analyzed and our stillborn child autopsied to help farther the knowledge of those Fields. Preterm labor has many, many preventions, but all to often, they fail. The drugs, surgeries, and homeopathic methods don't always work.

As a matter of thought, November 14th was Preemie awareness day. The month of November is the March of Dimes Preemie Awareness Month.

It may be easy to fantasize about what you would do if you were faced with that situation but until you are, well, you opinion is unimportant. My wife and I have had to prepare ourselves for the very real possibility that one or all of our triplets could face sever difficulties at birth. She is 25 weeks pregnant now and last night was admitted to the hospital for observation. She will probably get to go home but had it not been for a quick reaction things could have turned our quite differently.

23 weeks ago It was suggested by one doctor that we consult a specialist to consider a pregnancy reduction. I know it would have been better for the remaining babies but how can a person make that sort of choice? The reality is that with current medical intervention these babies have a chance at life. That chance is equal to potential. That potential is what it's all about.

People make decisions based on the potential of something all the time. I would bet more than one person has taken a gamble on you. This is no different. The harsh reality is that most of the babies will die regardless of all of the best medical intervention. For that baby who makes it though, don't you think that there has to be a reason for it? 23 weeks ago I could have made a decision that would have made my life less complicated now. 23 weeks ago I could have made a decision that would have almost guaranteed the good health of two of my potential children. That decision would have abandoned what potential might be there.

That potential could be the person who cures aids, finds a way to make a peaceful world or saves your life. Wouldn't it be a shame to waste such a gift just because there is a possibility that their life may be hard?

Maybe now I'm to callus to worry about potential. The potential for meaningfull life vs the potential for a life of nothing but pain and entrapment in one's own mind or body. Did you read the stats? Keep in mind, this entire thing has NOTHING to do with an infant born after 22 weeks, or abortion. This is about an 14% survival rate with an 50% chance after that of being brain damaged.

I do know this, if I forced the doctors to take heroic measures to save my preemie born before 22 weeks, it would be for purely selfish reasons. Call it hope, but that's not what it is, it's simply that I wouldn't want to lose another child, even if that child spent the rest of it's life being fed by a tube.

Question is though, what about the doctors recomendation? How could it effect how these measures are takin in the US? As I said in the artical, I found extremely little information about infants born before 22 weeks. I found a wealth of information for 23 weeks on though.

I just don't see your point. Not taking advantage of medical advances to further the possibility of life is foolish.

I watched a child die. He hung himself and was found with his body still clinging to life. There was nothing left of his brain. He was still given time to be totally sure that there was no hope.

You can't predict what might happen. You can't predict the severity of mental or physical disability. The truth is that most of these children die, as I stated before. Why isn't life important to you?

MsLadyDeath, forgive the bluntness, but you sound like a person who would prefer it was mandatory for all fetuses who are identified as having severe handicaps be aborted.

I wouldn't support that at all.

Why isn't life important to you?

I resent that. Meaningful exisitance is important, and don't give me the paremetic stuff, I watched my brother die slowely over 3 days, I buried my son also, so back off. I also worked with disabled kids and their families, including my cousin, who's father has spent the last 30 plus years watchin his son grow to be an 8 year old trapped in an aging body, blaming himself all this time for it. Some things can't be helped.

You all seem like the people that would leave a comatosed person trapped on a vent dispite the fact that their is no hope for brain activity to resume instead of lettin the person have a peaceful and somewhat dignified death, allowing the families to greive. There really isn't much of a difference.

Maybe I'm a huge pessimist, I can't help but think of this kid who would be my age. When he was around 8 years old his dad took him to work on an irrigation piviot, long story short, the hood of his sweatshirt got caught in the pivot and it strangled him. He lived if that's what you want to call it. He spent most of his days and nights layin on the kitchen table, unloved and uncared for. In the end, they only kept him alive in a vegitative state because they got money for his existance. I'll never get that picture out of my head, it sits there, along with the many horrors I have seen in my life.

I can't understand why people think that tourtureing another living being for some feable hope is a good thing. Would you FORCE the family of a macro preemie to to that to their child???? This research is probably the first time support has been publicly givin to allowing a family of a macro preemie to die in peace surrounded by love and being held by his/her family, instead of hooked up to machienes and equipment, having untold surgery after surgery and being in constant pain because of the surgeries.

I'm not telling anyone what to do. I mainly posted this because of the research. I'm actually amazed how much I'm gettin attacked for a might and maybe comment at the end, and none of the research or facts that I worked hard to find have even been mentioned. Guess I shouldn't bother with Joeuser at all.

Would you FORCE the family of a macro preemie to to that to their child????

Congratulations John, I hope it works out for you guys.

Before you go any farther, it's clear she's just trying to get a rise of of you with these comments.

"Know what sounds odd, that 93 kids had to suffer horrible torture so those 7 could live. Just a thought"

Twisting statistics again are you? Here's another thought, those kids were at least given the opportunity to come into the world struggling like the rest of us. If 7 make it then that's 7 more then would if you just decided to end their lives. The 93 who were given the opportunity, were given an opportunity to live, which appears to be why this universe was created, to give life to things.

Taking it away, without at least allowing life the chance to succeed is a very wrong thing to do. It may not even be wrong in some cases, but taking away a parent's right to decide what's best for their children is wrong in any case.

None of us turn out perfect, just because you have birth defects or because you aren't perfect in every way, does not an unmeaningful life make. I would have rather been born without sight, or smell, or ears, and though I am glad I have all my senses, and limbs, if I would much rather try to make it without them and have lived then not live at all.

The bottom line, it's not your choice to make, it's the choice of the parents. John did the right thing in choosing to give all 3 the chance, but making the other choice he had, would have been right also, because it was his choice to make.

That choice is what is missing from the title of your post.

By the way John have you guys seen a 4D ultrasound image of your babies, do they use the Siemens/Acuson Ultrasound machine at your medical provider place?

[quote[Do you know how they let them die? Well let me tell you about aborted babies that survive delivery, some of them last a few days outside the womb, and it is unethical to kill them by denying them water, however they are denied food, and slowly drift into a comotose state, and then die. This can take hours, days sometimes, which is truely disgusting in my opinion.

It is the same with micropremature births isn't it? They keep the hydrated, but don't feed them, until they drift into the afterlife.

No, that is not how they do it at all. None of this has ever been about unwanted children. I also find abortion past the first trimester deplorable. Preemies born before 22 weeks have no suckling reflex yet. If they are allowed to die, the vent is removed, the feeding tube stays in place, both food and water are givin. They aren't starved. If the infant can survive on his own in that simplicity, then the preemie will.

Hope is realitive. Noone said anything about killing. Sometimes we have to rely on our doctors to help us with these choices, hense the artical, it's best to be informed before it happens so if it ever happens to you, you have a good firm idea in your head about what you want to do, and can find a doctor based on your belifes and not mine or anyone elses.

Thank you Little Whip

The bottom line, it's not your choice to make, it's the choice of the parents. John did the right thing in choosing to give all 3 the chance, but making the other choice he had, would have been right also, because it was his choice to make.

It is a choice and one I hope that I don't have to make.

We do it out of kindness, don't we? Or is it because "life isn't important" to us.

MLD seems to suggest that simply because a baby is a micro preemie that they should be allowed to die. The title suggests that they would pass peacefully. I just don't feel like death comes easy in any case.

Statistics told my wife and me that we would not have children. Statistics are often wrong. They are just numbers.

I wouldn’t force my view on anyone else but to suggest that because a baby is born early that no measures be taken to preserve its life is a horrible thought.

By the way John have you guys seen a 4D ultrasound image of your babies, do they use the Siemens/Acuson Ultrasound machine at your medical provider place?

We didn't opt for the 4D. There was no medical reason for it and insurance wouldn't pay. In addition these babies have seen their fare share of the ultrasounds and now that we would really be able to see some detail they are all smushed in there.

Cool I was just curious since I help to build the machine and have seen the 4D feature on the Discovery channel. I hope all is well and that you guys have a great Thanksgiving, and that everything works out.

As for MLD "Noone said anything about killing" I certainly took the title of your post as a suggestion that "Let Micro Preemies die Peacefully" means the should be terminated. If you were in favor of giving them a chance then would you not write "Let micro preemies live" ?

What exactly is with your callsign here by the way "msladydeath"?
Are you a funeral director or emballmer or why carry that on the ole dogtags?

Yea, I can't find where I said that part either, I may have deleted it a while back though. I deleted a lot of things I didn't agree with anymore. As I said, I'm in it for the learning experiance. I have changed my mind on several topics (my welfare blog being one).

I do see your side, yet I don't, since 24, 26 or 28 weeks is not 22 or 20, or 18 weeks, which is what the discussion was ment to focus on. I hope the best for you and your wife. As I said, I have been there, done that with my now 5 year old twins, it's not easy. I even took in every word of a responce that was here and was consiquently deleted, though not by me. I was in the process of responding to it when it didn't show up anymore.

I'm not sure why you think that death can not be peaceful though. Don't people "pass away peacefully in their sleep" all the time? I know that's how my grandpa and my friend died. They fell asleep and never woke up again.

Erm, Hell no.

I was born very premature, roughly 2 pounds, and at the far end of the premature line.

I survived, why not give them a chance to live.

~L