wow I had completely forgotten about this site... thanks for the suggestions, I've added them onto the bottom. I hadn't ever really considered doing a "u-s" list of women, but I think that it must certainly be ture of men, as it is of women, that they can see a particular brand of attractiveness or sexuality in a woman that doesn't comply with the more common trends of appearances and beauty. I think that in that case the emphasis is stil on "ageing gracefully", however, as opposed to what I would describe as truly the feat of truly growing into your skin that occurs in men.
Thanks for the comment, and I'm sorry it took so long to reply. Hum. Now that I think of it, you probably won't even get this. Damn.