I was talking to my cousin today, who's a sophmore in college and she talks about the good "make out sessions" she's had. The conversation went something like this:
She starts in, "Of course, it's always better when it's more meaningful, but there's nothing wrong with having a little fun with a friend especially after a few drinks, ya know? After you've been drinking, it just feels good to have someone there to cuddle with and kiss."
I questioned, "Oh, so how many guys have you kissed, exactly?"
She laughed, "oh, too many to count anymore... I've kissed so many random guys."
It's just hard for me to imagine doing that. Maybe it'll be different when I'm older, albeit I hope not, but I think it should always be meaningful... I don't think I could kiss a guy that I didn't have feelings for. But then again, I don't drink, either.
Poeple say it's fun, but isn't it just using each other for momentary gratification? Obviously in a relationship you're going to want to show outward affection, because you feel inward affection, but are people's hormones raging that badly that they can't control themselves? Or can they control it, and purposely demean themselves to that level of using each other? Do they do it to fit in, because you're more socially accepted if you go around kissing (or even sleeping with) every other guy you meet? It's not like they even have feelings for them beyond friendship, but people use each other, all the same, just for physical and or sexual gratification.
It just doesn't make sense to me; it doesn't seem like something natural. I can even understand if you really hit it off with someone and in a week you're cuddling with them, if you really have feelings for them, but it just seems cheap to be getting physical for the fun of it. It's almost like a new sport, and I'm not going to play... my kisses are more valuable than that.
☼Sarah
