Some people PRETEND that the choice doesn't need to be made and in so doing choose the life of the children [whose parents are] on the side of evil.
That's the point exactly.
By refusing to make a choice, by blaming those who are making a choice, one is already making a choice.
And I guess this is the crux of the confusion.
Party A are not realising that they are condeming X to death and are angry at party B for condemning Y to death.
And Party B see that party A are condemning X to death and are angry that party A are so arrogant as to fault party B for condeming Y to death while apparently taking X's death for granted.
I have seen it often. The party B types acknowledge victims on both sides and explain why they think that (fewer) victims on the attacking side are better than (more) victims on the defending side. At the same type the party A types, starting their thoughts a bit later, argue only about the victims on the aggressor's side and never ever even mention the victims (and would-be victims) on the other side.
During the last Lebanon war, protesters in Israel focussed on both Israeli and Lebanese victims and tried to stop the war (but couldn't, since it wasn't in Israel's power to stop the war). But I don't remember a single Lebanese protester (let alone the international "peace" crowd) even MENTIONING the fact that, gee, perhaps they shouldn't have bombed Israel for five years, testing Israel's bunkers and evacuation plans.
A BBC reporter at the time, neutral as ever, reported from Lebanon that people were wondering if "they" (the Israelis) will bomb Beirut again. It didn't come up that the single simplest defence against Israel bombing Beirut is simply refraining from bombing Haifa. (A more complicated defence would be to throw Hizbullah fighters out of the city.)
If the bombing of Dresden saved a single British life, it was already worth it for the British. Because that's what the British responsibility was: saving British lives. Saving German lives was German's responsibility . And Germany totally failed.
One might say that it is everybody's responsibility to save everybody's lives. And I would agree.
But when that thesis is used as an excuse for evil dictators and their wars, it becomes contraproductive.
We can see the same in Afghanistan now.
People are worried about civilian victims of allied attacks. Sympathy for innocent victims is good, but those who worry about innocent victims now have, often without noticing, made the decision that victims of the Taliban before 2001 don't matter and neither do victims of the Taliban now or the victims of much bloodier conflicts in other regions.
But every time the coalition have to change their plans because of innocent victims, the Taliban gain strength (in fact they even gain strength when victims of allied strikes are heavily publicised) and more people will die. Of course those victims will be of the uninteresting type and nobody will care about them. And isn't this what we want? No bad news from anywhere? Isn't that enough to keep the mindless protesters happy?
Oh, and Taltamir... Utemia is not a Nazi or even a Nazi sympathiser. She is a lot more open-minded than most Germans (myself included) but relies a bit too heavily on opinions she had read. That's why I brought up the "simple fact vs lots of research" problem.
"Big industry" driving Hitler to war is one of the more typical German progressive explanations for World War II, one that is happily accepted by both sides of the political spectrum and moderates. The left accept it because it blames capitalists, the right accept it because it can be used ultimately to blame the Jews, and moderates accept it because it keeps left and right from fighting and because it doesn't directly blame the Jews.