With palms together,
Good Morning Everyone,
We talked yesterday about the need for space between the match and the fuse. Opening that space is a challenge as it requires two things we are often either not equipped for or are unwilling to do. These are noticing the match is lit and a willingness not to light the fuse itself. We could add, of course, that we need to notice the fuse, as well, but here's the thing, none of these are real.
Our fuses and matches are constructs, habits of thinking and behaving: its important to know that they are not real as it helps us understand they have no real power in our lives. We give our thoughts and habits that power by relinquishing it ourselves.
If I am impatient with My Little Honey as we get ready to go somewhere, it is my thought that being late is bad that drives my impatience. Yet, "late" and "bad" is my thought and my judgement. When I blame her, I am bringing her into my mental world, asking her to abide by my rules. While it is crucial that I increase the space between my match (fear of being late) and the fuse (being late) it is equally important to notice and accept my own responsibility in creating the scenario itself.
I know that the world operates on social rules regarding time, but all that means is that we share a mental construct: it does nothing to make the rules "real". Its funny how we can be such iconoclasts as regards some icons, but refuse to touch our own.