Disclaimer: THIS IS A RANT! Before you break out the matches, lighters, or flamethrowers, please actually read the following......
Army Wives disgust me, it's true. What? Oh, you thought maybe I forgot that I am an Army Wife? Nope, I haven't forgotten. Nor do I disgust myself, with a few exceptions. No, I don't mean all Army Wives disgust me. There are alot of them that do though, and most of them should be glad that I don't know who they are and very glad that I've learned to at least partially control my temper.
Let me back up a second here. What I'm talking about here is infidelity, cheating, whoring around. Up until about a year ago, I had a wrong idea about infidelity in the military. I had heard all of the statistics that the military has a much higher divorce rate than the "average" in America, and that alot of it was because of frequent absences by the servicemember and rampant infidelity. I always assumed that it was the soldiers, sailors, airmen, and marines doing the cheating. After all, most of us have heard the stories of the sailor who has a girlfriend in every port, and some have heard about the guys stationed in the Phillipines who buy girls from the fathers for the time they are there, or about the women in Korea, or about TDY (Temporary Duty) really meaning Temporarily Divorce Your spouse. Then we moved to Ft. Hood and the blinders were peeled from my eyes.
I got here and discovered that most of the infidelity in the military is perpetrated by the wives (and husbands) left at home. The soldiers who are over in Iraq are fighting and dying for their families, their children, their wives, counting the days until they can come home and see their beloveds face again. And all too many of their wives are here at home spreading their legs for anyone that comes along. It's not limited to those who don't have children, many of them do have children. Several have had children while their husbands were gone, or are pregnant when they come back.
In the last year, I have waited tables at a small restaurant and delivered pizzas for two different companies. At the restaurant, we had customers who would come in with their children and their boyfriends (they actually told us their husbands were gone). As a delivery driver I have seen more things than I would ever wish on anyone. My largest tip just made me want to throw up, slap someone, and cry all at the same time. I've heard stories of soldiers coming home to find their wives dating other men (or women), living with someone else, or just plain gone.
In this day of high technology, no longer must a soldier wait weeks for the arrival of a Dear John letter. Now wives can send emails, chat online, talk on cell phones, or as at least one wife I've heard of did, send their husband a videotape of them having sex with two other men as their way of telling the soldier they are leaving. (As a bonus, this soldier put the video on in the common area to watch it with a bunch of soldiers from his unit, as they all enjoyed seeing each others messages from home. The soldier went out back with his weapon and shot himself after watching. I believe it was not fatal, more's the pity for the wife--she couldn't collect on his life insurance.)
When the 4th Infantry Division deployed en masse from Ft. Hood last year, something strange happened. There was a ceremony in the afternoon to say goodbye, and that same evening there were 4 times as many women in the bars and clubs in the surrounding area, looking for someone to take home. There are not words in this world to describe how much that disgusts me. I made a comment to friends awhile back that as long as the military deploys, batteries are a safe investment. I thought it was pretty funny, but now I just think it's sad because too many wives are not satisfied with that. Instead of going to the store for replacement batteries, they go to the bar for replacement men.
There is another creature I despise. It's the deployment predator. The men (and some women) who deliberately prey upon the wives (and husbands) left at home. They ooze charm; compliments and praise flow out with every exhalation. They spend hours, days, even weeks probing gently to discover if a spouse is gone (if they don't already know) and building your confidence and trust in them. They laugh and joke with you in an attempt to make you comfortable with them and waiting for their chance. The predator can be someone you've just met, or even your closest friend (or that of the soldier). Sometimes they are difficult to detect, especially when you are vulnerable. Sometimes they are even soldiers or spouses themselves.
So why do these Army Wives make me want to bash their heads against a brick wall? For one thing, what they do is just plain awful, but mostly it's BECAUSE THEY MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!!! Those of us who care about our soldier, who long for their return, who practically imprison themselves at home and spurn human contact for fear of temptation. Those of us that are not whores. I believe that most of us (Army Wives) do care about our husbands enough to deal with the situations we are in. Unfortunately, there are enough of those whorish floozies out there that they make others think less of us, and some consider us easy prey.
At any rate, I will be glad to go into another area of employment where I hopefully will not have to see so much of this disgusting behavior. And I think I'll be even happier to leave this area behind before I am made over in their image.
