It is always hard to know what to say in the face of death, which I guess is why most of us drag out old cliches that do more for the speaker than the person they meant to comfort.
I am no different, so I will just say my thoughts and sympathies are with you, and hope you understand the sincerity of the intent, although the sentiment itself is tired.
I know I'm probably considered a liberal (I dont really consider myself anything to be honest) but as Muggaz said I do have enormous respect and sympathy for those who are prepared to give their lives for their country, whether I agree with the cause or not.
I'm sure it was hard, but thankyou for writing this. I could do with learning some compassion.
with love, Dyl xx