I agree with you but it took me a few more years than you to figure this out.

I thought love was "you complete me" but that is BS. Finding someone to share your life with should be the icing on the cake not the cake.

I think you don't "find" your soulmate. I think you can become each other's soulmates by sharing your souls with each other.

Locamama: I'm not sure when I came to this conclusion, but the longer I do my RA job, the more I know I'm right. I see all of these girls basing their happiness on guys, and then things fall apart and they are devastated. So sad.

I like your cake analogy. Very good. I may have to use it in the future.

Zoo: Yay, another hermit! Sometimes, I think being a hermit is better than being around people. But then, I like speaking to other humans on occasion, so I come out of my cave.

"a nice accessory to life" I like that too. You guys are great at these images.

Companionship is not a cure-all, but having a partner in life can make happy things happier, and difficult things easier to cope with.

True, I'm sure. However, at the moment, I am writing this type of article to convince myself that I do not need a man to be happy. It's going pretty well, but I doubt it from time to time.

But you know what? Rum is almost as good as a boy. At least I know the rum is going to hurt me tomorrow... it never lies. It's very clear on the fact that it will make me happy today, and hungover tomorrow.

I think sometimes if you are very very lucky you stumble on your soulmate and recognize them right away and somehow manage to convey it to the other person, who you find out felt the same thing you did. It is rare, but it happens.

Isn't he wonderful? I'm pretty sure there's not a single life situation I face where I cannot find the answer in Tolkien. It's not a religion with me or anything, but it makes a good life philosophy.



I hope this happens to me. I'm not bitter enough to reject all thoughts of love... but I'm not going to count on it. I hate having my hopes dashed. I know it happens though, because I've seen it in my parents.

A friend of mine said something interesting last night. She said a soul mate is someone who changes your life in some way. You may not be with that person forever, and it may not be romantic, but this person affects great change in your life. By that meaning, she and I are soul mates. I kinda liked that idea. It goes along with an idea of reincarnation and karma coming back to you in each life... which is not something I believe in in truth, but I like the idea of. She was meant to be my friend, and I am a better person because of her. And, if we did "live again", I'd like to think we'd be friends in that next life. Anyone I want to see in a next life would qualify as a soul mate.



So very, very true.



Thanks. It's an ongoing process. Some days it easier than others. Today, I'm so busy with finals that I wouldn't have time for a guy if I had one. I think God's trying to make a point with that knowledge...

You should never look for a man to complete you, you have to make you happy first. You have to love yourself first. And when you do, and you find someone like Elie commented and like Tex said, and Maso said; Each a bit of everything thrown in and mix together can make the person that makes you happy and you share the love that you both will enjoy.

A relationship is never perfect, as you know, and it requires a lot of work. Anyone who goes into a relationship and expect it to be a bed of roses and they won't have to lift a finger to make it work is mistakenly dillusional. That's why knowing a bit of who you are is important. YOu might not know everything, but you know something and that much helps you to have a better relationship with your partner. And yes, that old cliche, 'he/she completes me' is true because there are nuances in each individual's relationship that will make a person feel this way.