carebear07

Join Date 04/2004

Yes I Had Sex with YOUR Son

....guess you're gonna hate me now aren't you??

Okay so I'm just going to say that I absolutely hate some people's parents! Specifically my most recent ex-boyfriend's dad.

So here's the gist:

My ex-boyfriend [Cody], his family is basically rich. His dad owns the town gas station and his mom and step-dad own a whole bunch of pizza shops in town. Well his dad takes the whole, "I own the only gas staion in town and I'm rich so I'm better than you and know more." thing too the extreme. Cody and I have been broken up for seven months now, and through that seven months he has dated two girls and excluding me, had sex with three. I on the other hand have only had one boyfriend, Erik, my current boyfriend. So I've been trying my best to be friends with Cody these past seven months because I like to be friends with everyone. But every fucking time I try or think I've got it, his asshole of a father ruins everything I've built up between myself and Cody.

Just tonight I was at a JV baseball game at the school and Cody was there since he is on varsity this year. We kinda sorta talked. After the game he went home and I went to the track meet. Well, he called me and we talked forever. I told him that I like being just friends with him and wanna hang out and have fun with him. You know, like all friends normally do these days. Well he said something along the lines of, "I want you to break up with Erik and take me back. I also want to have sex with you too." And yes, I have had sex with Cody, just incase you were wondering. Actually he was my first, and I his. And it will be exactly a year tomorrow since the first time we did. Well I told him I was happy with Erik, which obviously didn't make him happy. It just so happened that his asshole father was listening to our convo, [which is very rude, might I add] anyways....he got on the phone and started yelling at me and said that it all needs to stop now. I responded, "Allen, what are you talking about?" and he's just like "I heard what you were saying and you want to have "fun" with my son so why dont you just come over here and do it, have sex with him again! It's not happening hun, this shit needs to stop right now." and I said, "I only want to be friends with your son and just hang out like normal friends do and nothing else. Allen says,"Well you told him your boyfriend doens't have to know" Gahhhhh!!! I only told Cody that because he thinks that just because me and Erik are dating that I cant hang out with my other guy friends. Erik doesn't care, he trusts me and knows i wont hurt him ever. And i told Allen that too!! But no, he thinks he honestly knows everything, EVERYTHING!!!!! I can't stand him, I hate his dad even tho I am very afraid of his dad.

So I guess Cody and I won't be hanging out or talking anymore. Hell, Allen was so rude that he wouldn't let Cody get back on the phone and hung the phone up on me!!! Okay, now how mature is that of a parent? Not very, okay so I'll only be a legal adult in oh....8 days, but no you can't have respect for me?? I hate the way his dad raises him. His dad is an alcoholic, lets Cody do almost anything he wants to. Cody and his dad fight all the time. Sometimes Cody has even called me saying he is going to kill himself or runaway. Which scares me because I care about him. I have a bad feeling something is going to go wrong in the future just because of his dad. He used to live with his grandparents, whom adore me and I as well adore them. They raised him so well. So here is what I wish I could tell his dad:

"ALLEN YOU WILL NEVER AND COULD NEVER RAISE A CHILD CORRECTLY!!! YOU'RE THE MOST PIGHEADED PERSON I HAVE EVER MET IN MY LIFE. I HOPE YOU BURN IN HELL AND SUFFER LIKE YOU MAKE PEOPLE SUFFER WHO YOU THINK OBVIOUSLY AREN'T AS GOOD AS YOU JUST BECAUSE THEY DONT HAVE MONEY!!! I FEEL SORRY FOR YOUR SON. I HOPE HE HAS ENOUGH SENSE TO STAY IN SCHOOL AND MOVE THE HELL AWAY FROM YOU AS SOON AS HE TURNS 18!!! YOU ARE INCONSIDERATE OF OTHER'S FEELINGS AND ONLY GIVE A DAMN ABOUT YOURSELF!!! I ABSOLUTELY DISPISE YOU AND HOPE THAT IN THE END YOU TURN OUT TO BE NOTHING, BECAUSE YOU ARE NOTHING!! YOU ARE LIKE THE SCUM AROUND THE BOTTOM OF A TOILET, THE STENCH OF MANURE!!! I HATE YOU AND YOU RUINED EVERYTHING I EVER HAD WITH YOUR SON, OUR RELATIONSHIP, OUR FRIENDSHIP, EVERYTHING!! FUCK YOU, AND FUCK OFF BASTARD!!!!"

Well...I'm too chickenshit to say that for real, and I have more respect for people than that, so ill say it on here. haha.

But for the good part, Erik is the best thing to ever happen to me. He's mature, smart, freaking gorgeous, he has a good sense of humor.....and the best part: he loves me for me and doesn't want me to be something I'm not. Gosh, I love him sooo much. He is truly amazing!!! I wouldn't give him up for anything in the whole world.

I just wish I could have a friendship with Cody, I mean he was my first real love. It just sux that his father has to be an asshole and fuck things up.

Guess things just weren't meant to be that way.

Okay...well that's my piece for tonight. Sorry if I sound too bitchy.....just had to get that off my mind. comments will be greatly appreciated!

ashley^marie"

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Geez, this reminds me of a girl I was "dating" in high school. We never really dated, we were just f*ck buddies. And her father knew it as he had caught us once.

He never did like me after that.

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I wish I had some really smart helpful comment for you but right now, I don't - I'm also pretty sleepy! Sorry! But let me say that being the parent of a soon to be 18 year old and having gotten to know most of her friends, it's not easy being a parent at all. I don't think Cody's father should have listened to the conversation, that's wrong in my opinion.

Somehow we (generic term for everyone) always feel attached to our first love. It sounds like you and Cody are still attracted to each other. You mean well, and perhaps giving him a bit of a distance for a while, and letting his parent cool down might be a good thing. Of course if he calls you (Cody) threatening his life again, do talk to him and if possible suggest other help for him, as in a Guidance Counselor at shool or anyone else who he could talk to. It sounds like he needs an outlet.

It's good to vent and writing is pretty helpful!

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Wow...is it still all that dramatic back in high school?....Jeez, I've been away too long...

Well, I might try and dissect this at a later time...it's 2AM and pretty much anything I say will either be confusing or assholish(Yes, I just made that up...)

Good night...

~Zoo

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Geez, this reminds me of a girl I was "dating" in high school. We never really dated, we were just f*ck buddies. And her father knew it as he had caught us once.

Well the funny thing is, is that when his father first discovered that we had had sex, he was fine with it and never said anything to either of us about not doing it again. I don't know...it might have something to do with we were actually dating when he knew we were having sex. And then of course he found out that we were still having sex after he broke up with me. I really don't see a difference whether we were dating or not. I mean sex is sex to me I guess.

Wow...is it still all that dramatic back in high school?....Jeez, I've been away too long...

Well this doesn't really have anything to do with high school in general Shaun. It's only between me and Cody and I guess his dad. It's not something that the whole school is talking about or anything.I try to stay out of the drama.

Well, I might try and dissect this at a later time...it's 2AM and pretty much anything I say will either be confusing or assholish(Yes, I just made that up...)

It wouldn't be the first time you've ever said anything "assholish" to me. haha.

Foreverserenity: Thank you for the comment. I do realize I posted this rather late last night. Mainly because I couldn't sleep thinking about it tho. Yes, I guess we do still have some type of attraction towards one another, but I don't feel anything for him that would make me want to be in a relationship with him ever again. Besides, I would be crazy to leave Erik for Cody!! And I really dont know if he has feelings for me like he says only because he goes back and forth between me and two other girls asking them to be with him. I think he only does it for the sex part. I must say, he is a horny little boy!!

I mean he calls the three of us and tells us all that he loves us and wants to be with us. We all share stories and unfortunately he tells us the same exact stories.

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It seems like you're very confused about the whole situation. I hope it works out for you. My experience is that ex-boyfriends don't make good friends. It just doesn't work that way.

I mean sex is sex to me I guess.

Spoken from a true child. Just remember sex makes babies whether you plan them our not, and you can get some pretty nasty diseases especially if you have sex with others with this same view.

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I think he only does it for the sex part.

It's just sex right? Why don't you just do it?

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Spoken from a true child. Just remember sex makes babies whether you plan them our not, and you can get some pretty nasty diseases especially if you have sex with others with this same view

Yes, that is very true. But I don't plan on having a kid anytime soon. I'll make sure of that. And I'm as careful as I can be about the diseases too.

It's just sex right? Why don't you just do it?

Well for one, I have a boyfriend. And for me when I do it, it's because it means something to me. If I went and did that with Cody it wouldn't mean anything and I don't want it to be that way.

I mean sex is sex to me I guess.

And about that whole line......it kinda I guess goes along with the whole I want it to be meaningful. But the times when Cody and I did it when we weren't dating, to me it still meant something even if it didn't to him.

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I don't plan on having a kid anytime soon. I'll make sure of that. And I'm as careful as I can be about the diseases too.

The only plan that can prevent both of these is abstinence. Condoms break. I've seen it again and again. And pills don't always work either. And abortion...well, you have to live with the consequences of that for the rest of your life. Same thing goes with diseases.

I'll repeat what I said about about flippancy above. I think (my opinion is) that you need to figure out what sex really does mean to you. You state that's it's just sex, then you say it means something. And if it doesn't mean something to the guy (i.e. he's using you) then that's something else to consider. It can me that you've got low self-esteem, or are just too immature to be doing something so serious.

I'm not saying that I haven't made mistakes in my life. I have. I've made mistakes about having sex. I've thought I was pregnant on a few occasions. And let me tell you it was the scariest thing in the world for me because I was in no way ready for that responsibility but know I could never go through with an abortion.

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I'll repeat what I said about about flippancy above. I think (my opinion is) that you need to figure out what sex really does mean to you. You state that's it's just sex, then you say it means something. And if it doesn't mean something to the guy (i.e. he's using you) then that's something else to consider. It can me that you've got low self-esteem, or are just too immature to be doing something so serious.

I believe that when I made the choice to first have sex, I was too immature to make decisions like that. Although it did mean something to me then. And I guess I kind of contradicted myself by saying two opposite things. But I think it all just kinda came out wrong. When I said it's just sex, I was meaning that why is it different to his dad that we have sex wether or not we were going out or not. That's what I meant. Because his dad didn't care the we did while we were dating, but he cares that we do when we're not. So I guess I kind of did not make that clear. And that's my fault. But yes, it does mean something to me when I'm going to have sex with a guy.

For example: When I go to see Erik in June......I could possibly have sex with him. I mean we've talked about it plenty of times. But if I"m not ready to have sex with him, then I won't do it. And that factor that I want it to mean something comes in. That will be the main factor in wether or not it will happen.

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I forgot one more point. I am the product of a failed IUD. There just isn't a fool-proof method of birth control. Ask my mom - she also got pregnant using a contraceptive foam. Just know what you might be getting yourself into.

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Thank you Question of the Day. I know that there are no fool-proof methods. I just pray to God that something will not go wrong if Erik and I decide to have sex.

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You should be like me. I am a god, and as we all know, gods are celibate.

<---- 20 year old virgin

There are more ways to have fun besides having sex.

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