Congrats!

Seriously, I hope it all works out for you. I met my (amazing!) girlfriend online, on okcupid.com in fact, and we've been together for almost 8 months. Funny thing is, we weren't really looking. We'd both been recovering from pretty bad relationships, and were cautious with even casual friendships, but...we both admitted that there was something.

It's been amazing. In fact, so much so, we gave each other promise rings.

~L

Have you seen him yet?

I think its great you all are hitting it off....but, what does he look like?  It may not be the MOST important thing, but it is important.  Right?  Or is that just me?

I remember when people were ashamed to admit meeting someone on line...now its like saying you met someone at the mall.

I'm happy for you.  Hope it works out.

Tova, it's not just you. Looks are important. And while I agree with Dynamaso that it's nice to actually get to know someone without the physical interfering, I checked out his pictures just as much as his profile. Lucky for me, I've seen a lot of pictures of him. And not just the pictures you put on your dating profile, I've seen his Facebook and his MySpace pictures. If he looks anything like his pictures, then I'll be fine because I think he's pretty cute.

Some kids in one of my classes were making fun of online dating, yet they all knew someone who was either dating, engaged to or married to someone they met online. I think the stigma of online dating is leaving slowly. There are still some people who think, "Only losers online date. They do that because they can't find anyone to date them in real life." I told my class that sometimes, it is a matter of being around eligible people. I'm not in a situation where I meet a lot of new guys who are as old or older than I am.

We'll see how the first date goes.

I think it's great that you found someone compatible who seems to be perfect for you!

It's good that you also checked him out too!

Just promise me that on your first face to face date you meet in a very public place in the day time or daylight! Just so that what sounds too good to be true really proves to be true and your instincts is OK with your heart! I know, I know, I just had to be mommy for a min there! I am happy for you and wish you the best of luck with this relationship!

Since Two Towers is his favorite of the LotR movies, I might just say yes.



I promise... no fingers crossed or anything. I was thinking a restaraunt and then if things went well, bowling. I'll probably have a few friends shadowing us as well... just to be on the safe side.


Here are a few of the things the kids in my class thought about online dating:

"You can't trust what people put online. They make themselves look better."
My response? I don't trust what people look like in bars either. Do you think any of those people always look that good? No way. The next morning when the push-up bra is off, things change. I think you run this risk anyway. It takes a long time before I'll let a guy see me without my makeup on.

"I wonder if online dating is responsible for the increase in divorce rates."
Possible. People do expect that people 'matched' to them will be perfect for them, and break things off when the other person turns out not to be perfect, make them happier, or a 'soul mate'. However, I blame that more on mentality than on online dating.

"If it hasn't increased divorce rates, it's probably increased murder rates."
Yeah, because everyone online is a creepy murderer. I tried to explain that online dating was safer than randomly meeting people. You get to know them before you meet... e-mail, talk on the phone, etc. Then, of course, if you are smart, you meet in public, have friends nearby, police on speed dial. I don't think online predators are limited to chat rooms for teens, but I don't think online dating is worse than blind dates or picking people up at parties/bars.