Well as a young lady, I will put my two cents into it. Thankfully, I have been with my great wonderful man for almost three years now, and I am way past the "seeking the thrill" of what can happen every weekend I go out.
But sadly and regrettably so, I used to be one of those "one night stand" girls. At that time, I hated my life, and myself. I had no self-confidence, and was greatly insecure. Yes, I know. That doesn't mean go put your life into a stranger's hands and become a slut. But I was in the " I dont give a f*ck* " mind frame. So I started taking the weekends dressed my best and sexiest, and put on my facade. To the night club world, I was a girl who wanted to have all the fun I could, and was a no strings attached kind of girl. I went to places where no one knew me, and the clubs were far from where I lived. I could be whoever I wanted, and whatever I wanted. It was great in my mind at the time. But after a while of going home with the average joe ( no pun intended) , the tables turned. It was no longer just the men out there seeking to conquer their conquest on the hottest girl they could get to leave with them. I began becoming "picky" and going after the hottest guys that I wanted to become my conquest. Soon that can lead you to a very dangerous thought process. You get this humongous sense of confidnce building inside you, and soon you learn the "tricks of the trade" and every weekend becomes an obsession to you. You feel you can have whatever you want. And you are obsessed with this "other life" you have made for yourself. In your mind, you are hot, and you are wanted. Obviously, it is all fake. You simply a slut, and a party girl.
Now for a lot of people it is not like this, I know. Some just like the basic thought of a " one night stand". It doesnt go this deep or get this complex. But for some of us that don't have all the "goods' most gorgeous women do. This is what it can become.
But women and men are both so FRIGGIN stupid. Most people think about the possibilities of getting pregnant, or contracting a STD, or even ending up with a very dangerous partner that can cause you great harm. ( Thank God, I never contracted a STD, or got pregnant from them). But they dont realize their are STVs, there are bacterial infections and so much more. You could get cervical cancer from sex. What? Cervical cancer from sex? Yes I learned this the hard way. Cervical cancer starts out as the HPV virus. A lot of women carry it, but it is doormant.But did you know you can contract the HPV virus from sex with a man? The men contract the HPV virus during sex, and it stays with them. ( Of course it does not affect them in any way) , but they can pass it on to their next partner. This is what happened to me, and made me change my ways. But if you dont want to go to that extreme. There are disgusting things like vaginitis, where men pass on parasites from one girl to another. There is this disgusting infection a woman can contract from sex. Say a man sleeps with one woman and they have anal sex. The bacteria from the anal region can gets ont he mans penis, and stays there and is then passed into his next sexual partner. The infection result is disgusting and painful, but the thought of how it is contracted is even worse.
So yes, sex is an intimate act between two people. Yes it can be a primal instinct to "mate" as much as you can, with any person that "attracts" you. But now, knowing what I do, IMHO , I believe that sex should be seen as a beautiful , and meaningful thing between two people that love one another. Maybe it is two friends that are very close, and have a strong attraction to one another. But none the less. It should not be given so freely, and without much thought.
| How do we define "love"? Is it possible to be loving and well connected with a person previously unknown to us for a night, and never see that same person again? |
Xythe, I believe you can sleep with someone, and be perceived as having sex in a "loving manner" . Maybe feeling well connected with them during the act in the the way you are having sex, or how you feel about that person while the act is taking place. So I can agree to that thought, as you posted it. But "love" as an emotion, I dont think can take place. I believe love is an emotion that develops as you come to know someone inside and out.
Ok, I know that was a long post, and may not make complete sense. But since I dont post often. What the hell lol.
