I am a bit of a fiesty chick. Shocking I know. It is true though. I speak my mind, and I won't back down, and if I am challenged I will stand my ground. I think it is the best way to be. Alot of the time when I am introduced to new people, I can be a little cheeky, and my sense of humour is naturally sarcastic, and some people just don't know how to take it. Alot of the males I am friends with now have commented that on first meeting me they didn't like me, and it is only over time that they have grown to like me. My best friend, who is male, hated me when he first met me. Now this trend doesn't happen much with girls. Girls generally like me, and don't have a problem with the sarcasm, and cheeky comments. Men take great offense though, and I just don't get it.

I have talked to a few men about this, and questioned what it's about. Alot have said that men don't like confident women, and find it difficult to deal with them. Now I wasn't buying this. Men not liking confident women? What, are we living in the dark ages? I don't think so, but this isn't something that is a one off, it happens all the time. Now it is with boys of my age group, older men can take it on the chin, and don't have a problem with it, but boys my age, if you challenge them, they hate it. So what got me thinking about this? Well my friend was telling me about a girl that works behind the bar in his local. He goes in for a few times a week, and he just doesn't like this girl, and why? Well because she has a smart remark for just about everything, and is pretty sarcastic to boot. Now she has made a few comments to my friend and so far he has let it go.

Now he has told me a few things she has said, and to be honest she just makes me laugh. He said he thinks that she is trying to flirt, but she is failing miserably, and he hates it, and he is close to saying something, in his opinion, she is the staff, and she shouldn't be rude. I pointed out that maybe this was just her nature, and maybe he should just deal with it. That went down well. When he was describing her behaviour I failed to see how it was any different to the way I am. So I pointed this out to him, and he said it is different, because I do it in a nice way. Not that he thought that at first, he thought exactly the same things that he now thinks about that girl.

I realise that first impressions are important, and I also realise that sarcasm isn't always appreciated. Many people just don't get it. Does this mean that maybe I should control it a bit more when I first meet people, and ease them into the verbal abuse I have prepared for them? Hehe. Honestly, I'm not that bad! Sometimes, I can be a little shy when I first meet people. Shyness isn't something I really suffer from, but when I am first introduced to people it sometimes hits me. That's when I'm at my worst. My sense of humour is like a defense mechanism. Humour has got me out of some awkward situatations, and there is no better way of easing a tense situation, than making a joke, so that's where it comes from. I sometimes think I can come across as a little to much, and maybe I should work on my levels of cheekiness. On the other hand, why should I change? If you don't like me. You don't have too.

I wonder why men my age, maybe I should call them boys, have such a problem with confident women. Now I know this isn't all boys, but a large majority of them just don't know how to handle it, and much prefer the nice, sweet girls, who wouldn't say BOO to them. I mean what is the deal with them? Is it not fun to be challenged? Does it not make things a little more interesting and exciting? Or maybe they want to be the ones doing the challenging, and they want to be incharge, and want a girl to worship the ground they walk on, no questions asked. If that is the case, they probably are better off just avoiding girls like me!