People get mad and can say things they wouldn't otherwise say when they're annoyed (like our email exchange). But it's the actions that matter. It's not like she specified any "jokes". And since I'm not in the habit of making sexual jokes (there's 10+ years of blog writing available to pour through, it's not my type of humor) I could only assume her personal definition of what constitutes "sexist, vulgar, etc." was ridiculous and I was offended and angry. Not to mention the demand that I'm not to talk to her about fellow employees when they're not around. Seriously? She was a manager.
I've tried to be as open as humanly possible on the case but it is, after all, still pending litigation. Going beyond repeating what we have already said is in court documents is something I'm not at the liberty to discuss.
At the end of the day, the case is very straight forward - she got her feelings hurt at a voluntary gathering at a pub. Got mad about that and decided she was going to make us (And me) pay for getting her mad. She then poured through 3 years worth of emails to try to find something that would bolster her case. Look through the filings. It includes a link to a collegehumor.com video, a link to an animated GIF file "you're on fire" (as in, you're doing great), and a URL to a purity test that had gotten passed around the during a Christmas party two years prior.
I was there. That's what happened. And it doesn't change the fact that she didn't have the right to wipe out our stuff as an FU on her way out the door which, yes, really did have a significant impact on us because of the timing. Not to mention she took our laptop with her and wiped out years of analytics data and our trade show stuff. We have plenty of witnesses and evidence to corroborate this. Am I going to share all the details of that with you, in a public forum? Of course not. The lawyers really would strangle me then.
The bottom line, with regards to the post topic, as opposed to the legal junk, is that people have legal rights in the workplace. But their rights end where someone else's begins. You can't walk into a workplace where people are silly or often obnoxious and demand that everyone adapt to whatever particular, unspecified expectation you have. That doesn't mean people get to go around committing illegal acts. But if people make silly jokes and references to their favorite shows and you don't like it, say something but don't demand people live up to your arbitrary expectations even when you're not present.
edit:, I can't redact the private information of third parties in the court documents so I'm going to remove the link to them.