oh geeeze...tell him I said he's a party pooper!
What's he think we're going to "participate" in? Sounds like we have all sorts of "participatory" plans I don't know about...hahaha....getting Krispy Kremes are for females only?
Well let me see if I can explain since after 21 years I don't truly get it.
Imagine this with an English accent............
My husband was brought up with "manners." There is a certain way to do things, and one of those things includes introductions.
When meeting a new person, one is generally introduced by a trusted family member or friend. The introducer then is able to smooth out rough spots, keep conversation flowing, and help build a bridge (if one is so desired by both parties) to friendship.
When this route is not available, like with work, school etc..it is better to keep strangers at a distance, watch them for a length of time, then decide if they are indeed friendship material. Once the decision is made, (and it usually takes a loooooooong time) a safe time and place is set for further investigation.
Everyone else falls under acquaintance and stranger. Both categories fall under the "don't waste too much time on."
English accent off.....
Sad, and I am being a little hard about it...what can I say? Lots of history there. My husband won't be joining us for a couple reasons. 1. He really does hate to hear women chatter...and yes I DO CHATTER! 2. He does not believe the internet is a good place to make friends. (Remember I told ya we had some angst the first time I wanted to meet you? And the fact two men accompanied you....he was not happy with that..though we found a common ground...which was basically me doing it anyway.)
Don't get me wrong. He's not rude. He will greet you (I want him to meet ya), speak, but he won't be having any in depth conversations or "going" anywhere with us. He saves those for the defined people above...and it takes years and years to make that list sista!
It sounds weird, and I really am mucking up explaining it, but you will see....he's close lipped, and even closer with the boundaries of people he lets into his life. (My friends don't count because he's not expected to entertain or interact with them.)
Should be FUN...heh.
And in case your wonderin...my family asks him all the time..."WHY did you marry T? Doesn't she drive ya nuts?"
Nothing like family.