By the way, Texas - Thanks for commenting. I know you don't agree with this at all, but specifically thanks for making me use my brain to defend my position.
As for a man running the house into the ground, there is a responsibility to God that comes first. So if a Christian man decides that his wife should not read the Bible, and stop praying, she should not stop. Honestly, I can't tell you what you should do in a situation where the man is not leading properly. I just know that a lot of women aren't even letting men start leading, and men are becoming afraid to try. And that makes me sad.
Especially since I am one.
I want to be a servant leader, but I suck at it. I've never lead anything before. And my wife is very independent. So we often have a strained relationship. But I believe in my heart that both of us will grow, and eventually be able to take the roles that God intended for us. It's an ideal, but it's achievable to a degree at least. Currently, society is actually striving to get away from it! A relationship where each party takes 50% of the responsibility leads to each feeling like they're the good 50%.