Beginners guide to the lifestyle
Dominance and submission (D/s) and Master/ slave (M/s) are alternative relationships in which a Master or Dom controls the actions, emotions, and will of the slave, or submissive, often referred to as “sub”. D/s and M/s does not necessarily refer to the sex act itself. D/s and M/s is more akin to a seduction. The Master seduces the slave with his power; the slave seduces the Master with their willingness and servitude. Sex does occur in the relationship, but in this Guide, we are discussing the lifestyle, not sexual practice. Please understand this, D/s and M/s are not B&D or S&M. D/s and M/s are relationships between two people within the lifestyle while B&D and S&M are not.
“Slave” and “sub”, as well as “Master” and “Dom” are not directly interchangeable titles. The differences will be gone into later in this guide. A D/s or M/s relationship consists of two people who are mutually consenting adults who agree on a direction for their relationship. They agree that one of the partners will take the dominant, controlling role, and the other partner, the submissive, controlled role. Just like in any other relationship, it is a two way street, though to outsiders, it may not seem so. The Master relies on the slave as much as the slave relies on the Master. They are dependent on each other to satisfy their own needs.
Each partner has different needs, as defined by their role as Dom or sub, but each is satisfied, though in different ways. Each couple will have their own set of agreements.
This Guide talks about one, but every D/s or M/s relationship is different. However, there are some basic rules that are universal.